ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER: DON’T BE CONTROLLED BY HIS WORDS
So, I’m sitting in Sunday School, one Sunday (long ago-okay not that long ago…okay it was long ago), and we’re discussing the power words have. My teacher began talking about how there is power in our words, and that we should speak life.
Many of us are told this, but how many of us actually believe there is power in our words, and actually speak positivity into our lives and the lives of others?
So of course twenty minutes in, my mind has wandered off, (sorry Jesus), into how powerful words are in relationships. I began to think how much power we, as women, put into a man’s words, and how we often give men power so willingly just by the words he speaks.
Ladies, we have to remember that although there is power in the words a man speaks, there is also power in the words that we speak.
We all know there are so many men, who will tell you any and everything you want to hear, just to get you were they want you. This is why actions are so important. So many times we pay attention to only what they say, and let their words take control, when we should also stay mindful of their actions because they are saying everything. For example, they aren’t calling as much, they are texting. They stop asking those caring and important questions like “how are you” or “did you have a good day?” But because they throw around a few “love you’s” we no longer look at their actions.
Men can speak really great game, and they know this. They know they can finesse, charm, and be the casanova they so anxiously want to be.
I always tell my girlfriends to know they’re man, decipher through the talk, and access effectively. I am a firm believer in men tell you everything in the beginning. Men love to “lay down the law,” think about it. If you pay attention and listen to him, you will learn a lot more about him than you think. Men talk just as much as women. So when you go out, talk less, and listen more.
When you do speak, think first. He doesn’t need to know everything on the first date, or the fifth date. Let things flow, and grow organically. But never be afraid to say what you want. This doesn’t mean put everything on the line on the first date, but you should know what you want, and not be afraid to have expectations. You can’t waste your time having two-hundred first dates in a year.
Dating is fun, but know what you want so that you don’t waste your time on unnecessary men, and possibly unnecessary heartbreak.
Are your eyes and ears open?
