CLOSE THAT DOOR! DON’T LET HIM IN…AGAIN!

I received a text message from an unknown number the other day. It read “Whassup.” When I found out who it was, I was pleasantly surprised that one of my old crushes decided to contact me.

So, I flipped the script on him and responded: “Please do NOT miss me now. You had your chance, you wanted to be friends, and now we aren’t even that.”

He thought I was joking with him. I wasn’t.

I haven’t responded to him since.

Ladies, speak to these men the way they speak to you. Talk their language. Do not allow a man to walk in and out of your life whenever he chooses to.

You will be the one who gets hurt every time, because you openly allow a man to use you and your feelings, for his gain.

Yes, his gain! He could be feeling down, and want some attention. He could be coming to you because he knows that you’ll always answer, you’ll always forgive him, and/or you’ll always give him some.

Do not allow a man to place you in a vulnerable situation, just to leave you in the same place in three months or less. You have the control to say no. It’s just time for you to remember that you hold the power.

I had to ask myself, what does this man want from me? Conversation? A pep-talk? A friendly hug? Sex?  …it didn’t matter what he wanted, because he wasn’t getting it from me.

I refuse to waste any of my time fulfilling a man’s wants or needs, when I’m not even important enough for a phone call. I also refuse to put myself through that type of hurt again. I don’t give men a second chance to hurt me, and neither should you!

Just because a guy from your past contacts you, does not mean you have to let him in. He missed out. Sorry. His loss, not yours.

When a man shows you who he is, believe him.

Actions prove everything. If you think you need closure, you won’t need it, because his actions will be all the closure you need.

When a man wants to be a part of your life, he will make an obvious effort. If he isn’t making you a priority, or at least making you feel as though you matter, don’t save space for him in your heart, or in your life.

You should love yourself more than any other person on this Earth. If you’re struggling with self-love, then you really have no reason to open that door again. You need to work on you, so that you can let someone who truly loves you, show you what it means to love.

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