By The beauty of women.
We’re nurtures, we over-protect, we love hard, and a lot of other things. I get it. I understand. I’m a woman. But when are we going to stop doing this for others, and do it for ourselves?
I’ve noticed with my girlfriends and myself that we will nurture everyone, especially a man, but ourselves. It is time we nurture ourselves, be overprotective of our hearts and love on ourselves real hard, rather than waiting for someone to love on us. This way, we can be our best selves for ourselves, and truly be ready to nurture someone else, whether it’s our girlfriends, our man, or a child.
Honor thy self!
This is when it is okay to be selfish; acceptable selfishness, if you will. It’s you and the world. Love on yourself! Take a moment out of your day, every day, and do something for you. This is when you find your peace. Do the things you like to do and exploit the things that makes you happy, and do those things in abundance.
Take yourself to brunch, go to a book fair, visit the local museum you’ve been meaning to go to. HONOR THY SELF! Put you over everything and everybody.
I call it M.O.Y., Me Over You. If this sounds offensive, then you aren’t putting enough time into yourself. M.O.Y. means, I love you, but I love me more. You should never feel sorry about thinking of you.
Whenever my girlfriends are in crazy love situations I always ask first, “How much do you love yourself?” The answer is usually “a lot.” I usually rebuttal back with, “well, it sounds like you love him more than you love yourself, because you’re allowing him to hurt you.” That’s when the re-evaluation, with a different mindset, begins.
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Men think this way all the time! Think about it.
When you really love you, and think with a M.O.Y. attitude, you evaluate situations differently. When you start putting yourself first, you react in a way that is positive for you. You have to do what’s best for you. Everybody is not going to react to situations the way you’d like, so it’s okay for you to stop, think about you, and then react, even if it means they aren’t happy with your decision.
Be protective of who you open up to, be careful of who you open your heart to, and nurture those who nurture you. Remember M.O.Y.: Me Over You-I love you, but I love me more.
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