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AN EXCLUSIVE TALK WITH ACTRESS TANJAREEN MARTIN

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Tanjareen Martin is an actress who is not shy to play any character, because she can instantly own any part. Despite the many different personalities she’s had to embody, when you meet her, and talk to her, you’ll see she’s like a big sister: full of advice, and experience. You may know the sun-kissed beauty from Johnson Family Vacation, Miss March and Love For Sale, to name a few. I had the wonderful opportunity to interview  Ms. Martin (Twitter: @Tanjareen), and we talked about everything! The best part is she didn’t hold back on anything! Here is what she told me:

On ZANE’s “The Jump Off” Series

I wasn’t sure if I wanted to expose myself, because in my last film, Miss March, I showed my breasts, but it was a comedy, and it was one of the favorited scenes of the film.  I was very happy with my decision, because when it came out and tested, everyone wrote in their papers that they loved my scenes. So I thought, I don’t want to show my boobs again, I don’t want to be stamped as the girl who flashes her boobs around town, but they kept calling me, and Amin (Joseph) asked me to audition personally, and I thought well you know what? This could be fun, since we already have a chemistry—we’re already friends, so let me just go ahead and go to the audition, and see what they’re talking about.

I asked the guy I was dating at the time; “Hey, do yo mind if I happen to audition for a Zane show?” He was like “You know what, do your thing, its acting, why not.” That gave me the extra push. I went and Amin was in the audition with me and we had such a great read together, that they called me the next day and told me “You have the part, you start tomorrow, we’re about to email you 13 scripts to read them so you can be ready.” I was like “Whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down,” but they were like we’ve been looking for this character for over a month, and finally you came in and worked with Amin, and you nailed it! So I think Amin played a big part in me actually wanting to do the part, and being free enough to do a sex scene.

Being An African-American Actress

I can honestly say that most of my work, especially from urban films or TV, have come from relationship. Auditioning has gotten me some of the main stream roles, but for some reason people in the urban world are told they have to hire a name, they don’t really look out for new talent too much.

So I think that’s why people like Marlon Wayans, as big as he is, he went out and made A Haunted House because he said there aren’t a lot of parts for Blacks, so I have to make my own. And my family, we’ll write our own roles, because no one is writing roles for us—and that’s the truth.

Hollywood doesn’t usually cast a dark Black leading man with a dark Black female love interest. Perhaps middle America finds that too threatening. Therefore, if I had a curly fro, I could probably do a bunch more McDonald’s commercials. If I was of mixed-ethnicity, maybe I would get cast more as a leading lady in mainstream projects, but I love being a chocolate girl! It works for me.

Celebrities She Admires

Regina King, Kerry Washington, Jennifer Garner, Taraji P. Henson, Angela Basset,  and Pam Grier

Why: They show that you have to know your character before you step on set, you have to know what they want out of a scene. How they would dress, how they would wear their hair, what color would their polish be? You can’t just show up, these women really invest in preparing, and that influences me.

Words Of Wisdom To Aspiring Actors

  1. Build your resume up.
  2. Study, take classes, read books, watch biographies, and learn from other’s mistakes.
  3. Respect everyone on the set. Hollywood is so small, so be the person that you’d want to work with over and over again.

Why She Chose To Document Her Celibate Life

I used to attend a huge church in L.A. that had about 20-thousand members, and most of us were single. The pastor would preach a lot about fornication, and how that was a huge sin and I felt really convicted; really guilty like I was a thief, robber or murderer. So I decided to practice celibacy and wait for marriage. It lasted for three years.

During those three years there were so many funny stories about the way guys treated me when they realized I was serious. A lot of girls say it, but then you take a shot of Hennessy and all of a sudden you’re in your panties. But [the guys] would realize that I really wasn’t doing anything, but then there was that whole “How far will you go?” I would talk to my home girls, and I realized they were going through the same thing trying to be celibate, and guys were trying to press, “how much can we do?”

How serious is a relationship if the guy can’t be physical with you? Is he going to date you with someone else on the side? Because it’s a need? I said I was going to write a book on it, but then I realized I don’t feel like writing a book, and no one feels like reading all the time. I decided to make this easy, so I created a YouTube page. I wanted to put something out there that was five minutes, so the book became a web series.

What She Learned Through Her Celibacy

I learned my energy. When I save myself and I’m not having sex, I’m able to accomplish a lot more because I’m not focusing on dating. There is something spiritual about saving your sexual energy and putting that energy into getting things done—completing tasks, following your goals, and knocking things off the checklist. This happened a lot easier when I was celibate.

I also learned the truth about the guy I liked, because we became friends instead of just somebody they were trying to smash. They immediately tagged me in the friend zone, and I got to know the real them, and a lot of them are still my friends 5-10 years later, because I really had no choice but to get to know them. Once you sleep with somebody, you start to become blind to their faults, and they don’t have to be their real self anyway, but when you’re not sleeping with them, you find out, “oh he does have a drinking problem.”

 On Being A Vegetarian

My smoothies are my morning coffee. I do vegan soul food dinners at my house, and I do give recipes out to friends on vegan dishes. I take a dish that you love, and I teach you how to make it vegan. People are really impressed because there’s no meat, cheese, or milk, and the dish that they grew up eating is so much healthier for them, their body, their heart, and their blood.

You too can Eat Clean with Tanjareen!

The Biggest Misconception People Have About Her

[People] probably think because I dress really sexy I’m not as bright as I am or that I might be easier to get with than I am, but once people get to know me they always tell me that they had no idea how I really am. The real me, is super Earthy. I buy everything organic; I don’t drink soda or coffee; I’m really spiritual; I donate to the homeless every week; I’m really into making photo cards. I read a lot, I’m sure that when people look at me, they don’t go, she probably has a huge book collection, but I do!

I think I dress this way because when I was doing the celibacy thing I was so insecure about having hips and a butt that I wore baggy clothes; but I have come to a point where I can embrace my hips and thighs, and I’m proud of my curves. But that doesn’t mean I’m going to have sex with you, it just means I like my shape.

About Her Upcoming Projects

I have my own project “The Celibate Nympho Chronicles.” I have more episodes to release and more to produce. That’s the web series about my dating life, or lack there of. So far Malik Yoba, Rodney Perry, Tony Rock, Wesley Jonathan, and other celebrities have made guest appearances. It follows my journey on trying to hold out from giving up the snatch until I find the right guy—its not easy.

You can find it on YouTubeFunny or Die, and Vimeo.

A Message To Her Supporters

I need you, I love you, and I appreciate you, and stick with me, because there are a lot of sides to me, and you’ll never know what’s going to come up next, but I definitely promise that it will be shocking. I try not to do anything that is expected. I’m not important without you, and it is going to be a fun journey!

Fun Facts!

  1. Tanjareen likes to put on her bikini, grab her blanket and lay out at the park.
  2. She likes TrueBlood and nighttime soap operas like Scandal and The Sopranos.
  3. She decided at 6-years old that she would be an actress after acting in her first play as the gingerbread man in “Hansel and Gretel”

Be sure to catch Tanjareen on Zane’s “The Jump Off” on Cinemax and on TVone’s “Family Time”!

*Posted intially on 5/16/13*

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FALL 2015

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It’s cooling down, and we are focusing a little more on who we are and our presence online. It’s time we clean our thoughts and open our minds. We’re talking about becoming your brand and letting your brand’s voice be heard. Let’s discuss!

 

BUSINESS

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FASHION

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GET THE BADDIE LOOK EFFORTLESSLY

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These looks I created are perfect for the office, and if you’re a city girl, they can easily turn into fabulous looks for happy hour!

Grape Crush

Do not be afraid to wear your crop top to work. It’s all about moderation. Pair it with an amazing blouse like this one. It is the perfect finishing touch to make any outfit appear elegant. Also bold colors and colorful prints always makes the perfect statement. What’s awesome about this look is that you can go straight from work to happy hour or a date night…the choice is yours. 😉

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Pink Dream

Blazers! Blazers! Blazers! I love a good blazer, especially the bright beautiful one’s, and this one shows off your curves, and every Baddie wants that! You can be a classy baddie with a hint of sexy. Pewter and pink are beautiful together, and this is the perfect time to make black your statement color. A simple black strap heel, with matching jewelry will give you the professional look you desire for giving presentations, or teaching.

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Peachy Pie

You can still be sexy while getting your profession on, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! Remember colors are fun, so wear them! Try a darker lip when wearing corals, and peach colors, they enhance your look. And again, why not add a bright blazer to give your wardrobe your personality? Also don’t be afraid to wear a semi-sexy heel to work. Always pair it with jeans or a skirt that goes down to at least your ankle. Get it BADDIE!

PeachyPieWhich is your favorite look?

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5 THINGS YOU DON’T NEED TO DO

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There is so much advice on things to do to find happiness, getting the promotion you want, and to find love, but there are some things you don’t need to do to have a healthy, happy fulfilling life. Starting with these five things:

Don’t hesitate too long.

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If you’ve been wanting to do something, do it! Don’t worry about what others will say, or if you fail. Get out of your comfort zone and make it happen. Sometimes when you have to make a major decision, it doesn’t feel right, and that’s usually doubt. Don’t let doubt control your life decisions. You deserve happiness. Whether you’re leaving home for the first time, finishing a book you started years ago, or starting a new business. Don’t hesitate on it if it’s something that will grow you as a person.

Don’t expect too much.

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It never amazes me when people disappoint me. People are not going to always react the way you want them to, or handle a situation you think they should. Ladies, please keep your expectations low when dealing with some of these men and your friends too. We are all human, we make mistakes, and for the most part, we handle situations the best way we know how. Expectations can easily lead to disappointments, so keep your expectations of others low.

Don’t appreciate too little.

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If someone does something nice for you, say thank you. No one owes you anything. So be kind, be genuine and know that there are people on this Earth that wants what’s best for you! Sometimes we’re so used to getting the shitty end of the stick that we don’t realize the good that people do for us, and want for us. Be appreciative of the small victories in life, I assure you, they matter!

Don’t love too late.

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You only get one life. Honestly, you only love purely and fearlessly once-which is usually your first love. Your first love is your purest because you weren’t afraid to love; it may have happened unexpectedly. Although your first love may not have ended with your dream wedding and house, kids and forever, you can’t be afraid to put yourself out there and love again. You deserve to love someone who loves you just as much, if not more than you love them. Don’t wait too late to realize that you are worthy of TRUE love. Have fun, laugh uncontrollably, dream decadently, and don’t let love pass you by.

Don’t give up too soon.

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Tired yet? That’s fine, but do not give up! You are almost exactly where you WANT to be. Where you are right now in life is exactly where you are supposed to be, so keep going. Giving up is harder than finishing the fight. Knowing what you could have been, and what you could have done will hurt you and hunt you for eternity. You will never let it go if you give up. Give your goals, and dreams all you got, and when you feel like you have no more to give, get help! Never be afraid to ask for assistance.

It’s your World Baddie Girl!

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Alright…I’m done.

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MEET ASHLEE BABBS OF BELLAAMORE HAIR

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Started in June of 2014, BellaAmore Hair was started to help the everyday woman buy luxury hair for an affordable price. Ashlee Babbs, founder of BellaAmore Hair, knows from first hand experience how expensive quality hair can be, and how much more money we have to invest in the install as well.

How is BellaAmore Hair able to make their products affordable?

BellaAmore Hair has bundle deals, student discounts, and if you stay up to date with them on socially, you can be apart of their giveaways!

BellaAmore Hair sells a variety of 5A grade hair, including Brazilian, Malaysian and Peruvian in the forms of straight, body wave, and loose wave. FYI: The grade of hair is determined by the year of the donor. If the grade is 7A, that means that the hair donor is a younger person, usually 15 years of age or younger. BellaAmore sells grade 5A, which means the hair donor is 25-30 years old.

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What are some goals for BellaAmore Hair?

  • To become a household name, and have a strong presence in people’s homes.
  • Growing the BellaAmore sisterhood within the Officially Kissed Sorority distribution program; making BellaAmore Hair the “Mary-Kay” of hair.
  • To be able to donate a small amount, from each order that is placed to a charity.

Ashlee has a lot of insight in starting and investing in your own company. She says that once she made her company into an official LLC, she wasn’t scared. Her advice to the Badd Girl Society is:

“Don’t be scared! I have a degree in Political Science, so when I started my business, I had to learn everything. There are a lot of things people pass up because they’re scared. I’m now reaping the benefits of success. Have confidence in your business!”

She also wants us to know that it takes money to make money, and that you have to invest in yourself and your company. You have to do the proper research, and be sure to write everything down, and keep your receipts.

Want to know a couple of fun facts about Ashlee?

She’s a lieutenant in the military! She’s also a human resource manager, and she’ll be deporting for Kuwait soon. But there’s no need to worry. Even though she’s leaving, you can still place orders, and you’ll receive the great affordable hair you wanted with a guarantee of great customer service.

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If you’re interested in becoming a distributor for BellaAmore Hair, and joining in this unique sisterhood, be sure to check out Officially Kissed Sorority.

Check out these review videos!

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PRODUCT JUNKIE: 8 OF THE BEST BEAUTY PRODUCTS

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Summer, to some is the best season of the year. Summer offers lots of sunshine, beach fun, and bright colors to wear. There are many beauty secrets, and products out there to enhance your beauty, but lets talk about some of the best beauty products for the season.

If you’re one who enjoys the summer, here are some products that you should give a try, if you haven’t already.

1. EOS Lip Balm

Evolution of Smooth is the perfect name! EOS killed the game with this lip balm. You always want to have baby soft lips, and EOS lip balm line is amazing. It smells good, and comes in a cute package. The only other lip balm I would recommend besides EOS is Maybelline New York Baby Lips Moisturizing Lip Balm.

2. E.L.F. Lip Exfoliator

The secret to having soft,hydrated lips is to exfoliate. Just as you exfoliate your face, you want to do the same for lips. This simple exfoliator is easy to use, and works instantly. You will have those kissable lips that you’ve dreamed of.

3. Viva La Juicy Gold Couture

Juicy Couture fans will enjoy this sweet fragrance. It smells of wild berries, a kiss of honeysuckle and a luxurious elixir of golden amber, melted caramel, and vanilla. You won’t need much, because it does travel, but in the best way. It’s getting hot, and you should smell amazing at all times.

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Keep your makeup looking like you just applied it with this mist and set from e.l.f. cosmetics. With aloe, cucumber, green tea and vitamins, this refreshing product keeps your face moisturized, supple and healthy throughout the day. This is even perfect for those who have oily skin. It’s very light and refreshing.

5. Mascara Primer

Lashes are fun, and 3-D fiber mascara is just as fun, but a primer helps to keep your natural lashes healthy as well as elongate them. You can still put your favorite mascara on top, and depending n your mascara, you’ll have the 3-D fiber lash look!

6. Nail Polish

It doesn’t matter the brand, but now is the time to play with those vibrant, neon colors. Lime green, mint green, sunshine yellow, all of those colors that can come off as “tacky” in the winter now is the time to enjoy them.

7. Bronzer: LORAC TANtalizer Baked Bronzer Golden Glow.

Give yourself an extra glow, so that when the sun hits you, you look magazine ready.

8. Hawaiian Tropic Shimmer Effect Sunscreen

Sunscreen is very important, you should be wearing it year round, but now that you’re showing more skin choose this sunscreen to give you a shimmer. It’s not sticky, and the shimmer doesn’t get everywhere. This sunscreen will not disappoint you.

What are some of your favorite summer beauty products?

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7 WAYS TO BECOME THE BEST YOU

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There are so many ways to better yourself, and grow daily. Everyone wants to be the best, but only a few actually put in the effort to be the best. If you’re serious about growing yourself, here are seven easy and effective ways to become a best you. 

7. EDUCATE YOURSELF

Education is important, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I’m not saying we should all be walking around with graduate degrees, but never be afraid of learning more, and going beyond. Learning isn’t always in a classroom. You can learn some of the best lessons in the real world and through traveling. 

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”
-Benjamin Franklin

You will always reap beautiful rewards when you’re open to learning more.  You will never know your own potential if you never get out of your one dimensional box. Never settle, you deserve to explore. Be vulnerable to new experiences, take yourself out of your comfort zone and be free.

6. FIND YOUR PASION

Have you found that thing that you LOVE? That thing that moves your spirit and makes you feel alive? If you haven’t, that’s okay, because you’ll know when you find it.

When you find your passion, it will move you and those who you come into contact with you. If your passion is in drawing, writing, or building putting your all into it will be effortless. Don’t worry about anyone’s opinion, because there will be so many people that will love what you do because they will see the passion you’ve poured into your craft. We often look to be perfect at our passion, but perfection is nonexistent, because you get better each day. Continue to pour into your passion and share your passion.

5. FIND A MENTOR

Motivational speaker and self help guru, Jim Rohn, once said,

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

This speaks volumes. I guess momma was right, huh? You are who you hang around. So make sure those five people count!

Be careful who you put your energy into, and who’s energy you allow into your life. You always want to be around those who want what’s best for you, and you should want what’s best for them in return. Although you will learn from your mentor, remember that it’s still a two lane street, you both should offer something to each other that will grow you both. You never want to be a person who continuously takes from others. Just as you are happy to receive, you should be just as happy to give.

4. BE A MENTOR

Selfishness is never a quality you want to have. Give freely, teach someone about something they don’t know, or want to know. You never know what impact you may have on somebody. You could bring out the potential and success of a person that they may not have known they had. You don’t have to tell all of your secrets, there are some things only you should know, but never be afraid to help grow someone. 

3. POSITIVE PEOPLE ONLY

Negativity won’t do anything good for you anyway! Some people may not understand your plans, and future goals, so keep yourself around like-minded people who will push you to better yourself. Remove all those leeches from your life! You deserve to be uplifted even if you feel your goals are small. Pessimistic people are no good for you if you are trying to be successful at anything. Remember, you are who you attract, so if you find yourself around a lot of negativity and unhappy people, check yourself. Make sure you have a positive outlook on life, and are determined to show the greatness within you. You’ll be surprised how much your positive attitude can change your perspective, and life.

2. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

If you want to grow, place yourself in uncertainty. I dropped everything and left for Washington, D.C., and I don’t regret it. My struggle was truly real in the city. I experienced everything from a homicide on my block, no heat in the winter to my car being crashed into in a stolen car chase. However, I met some amazing people, and I worked everywhere from NBC to the Capitol. Personal growth only occurs when you are faced with an unprecedented situation that forces you to expand your comfort boundaries. This is how you become stronger.

1. VISUALIZE WHO YOU ARE

As I continue to move forward with entrepreneurship, I often wonder what is my niche, and what I want to be known for. One of my girlfriends saw me struggling with this and she told me to write out my obituary one day. I thought she had gone crazy, (things that makes you say WTF?!). Little did I know this was one of the best things I could ever do! I had to force myself to think, how do I want to be remembered when I depart this Earth, how I want my future great-grandchildren to see me, and, in all, the legacy I would be leaving behind. I tell anyone who is trying to find themselves to do the same. Of course you don’t have to write your obituary, but at least write out the type of woman you want to be, and what you want to be known for. Sit down, write the vision and make it plain!

Remember that you’re valuable, know yourself worth, and believe in yourself; I promise you will be happy, and live an awesome life. Go get what’s out there for you, whether you start your own business, or go overseas to volunteer. Never stop growing, accept your flaws, and know that your life has already begun.

What are you doing to become the best you?

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ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER: DON’T BE CONTROLLED BY HIS WORDS

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So, I’m sitting in Sunday School, one Sunday (long ago-okay not that long ago…okay it was long ago), and we’re discussing the power words have. My teacher began talking about how there is power in our words, and that we should speak life.

 

Many of us are told this, but how many of us actually believe there is power in our words, and actually speak positivity into our lives and the lives of others?

 

So of course twenty minutes in, my mind has wandered off, (sorry Jesus), into how powerful words are in relationships. I began to think how much power we, as women, put into a man’s words, and how we often give men power so willingly just by the words he speaks.

 

Ladies, we have to remember that although there is power in the words a man speaks, there is also power in the words that we speak.

 

We all know there are so many men, who will tell you any and everything you want to hear, just to get you were they want you. This is why actions are so important. So many times we pay attention to only what they say, and let their words take control, when we should also stay mindful of their actions because they are saying everything. For example, they aren’t calling as much, they are texting. They stop asking those caring and important questions like “how are you” or “did you have a good day?” But because they throw around a few “love you’s” we no longer look at their actions.

 

Men can speak really great game, and they know this. They know they can finesse, charm, and be the casanova they so anxiously want to be.

 

I always tell my girlfriends to know they’re man, decipher through the talk, and access effectively. I am a firm believer in men tell you everything in the beginning. Men love to “lay down the law,” think about it. If you pay attention and listen to him, you will learn a lot more about him than you think. Men talk just as much as women. So when you go out, talk less, and listen more.

 

When you do speak, think first. He doesn’t need to know everything on the first date, or the fifth date. Let things flow, and grow organically. But never be afraid to say what you want. This doesn’t mean put everything on the line on the first date, but you should know what you want, and not be afraid to have expectations. You can’t waste your time having two-hundred first dates in a year.

 

Dating is fun, but know what you want so that you don’t waste your time on unnecessary men, and possibly unnecessary heartbreak.

 Are your eyes and ears open?

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