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5 THINGS YOU DON’T NEED TO DO

By Neyara Nior August 13, 2015August 16, 2017 0 222

There is so much advice on things to do to find happiness, getting the promotion you want, and to find love, but there are some things you don’t need to do to have a healthy, happy fulfilling life. Starting with these five things:

Don’t hesitate too long.

If you’ve been wanting to do something, do it! Don’t worry about what others will say, or if you fail. Get out of your comfort zone and make it happen. Sometimes when you have to make a major decision, it doesn’t feel right, and that’s usually doubt. Don’t let doubt control your life decisions. You deserve happiness. Whether you’re leaving home for the first time, finishing a book you started years ago, or starting a new business. Don’t hesitate on it if it’s something that will grow you as a person.

Don’t expect too much.

It never amazes me when people disappoint me. People are not going to always react the way you want them to, or handle a situation you think they should. Ladies, please keep your expectations low when dealing with some of these men and your friends too. We are all human, we make mistakes, and for the most part, we handle situations the best way we know how. Expectations can easily lead to disappointments, so keep your expectations of others low.

Don’t appreciate too little.

If someone does something nice for you, say thank you. No one owes you anything. So be kind, be genuine and know that there are people on this Earth that wants what’s best for you! Sometimes we’re so used to getting the shitty end of the stick that we don’t realize the good that people do for us, and want for us. Be appreciative of the small victories in life, I assure you, they matter!

Don’t love too late.

You only get one life. Honestly, you only love purely and fearlessly once-which is usually your first love. Your first love is your purest because you weren’t afraid to love; it may have happened unexpectedly. Although your first love may not have ended with your dream wedding and house, kids and forever, you can’t be afraid to put yourself out there and love again. You deserve to love someone who loves you just as much, if not more than you love them. Don’t wait too late to realize that you are worthy of TRUE love. Have fun, laugh uncontrollably, dream decadently, and don’t let love pass you by.

Don’t give up too soon.

Tired yet? That’s fine, but do not give up! You are almost exactly where you WANT to be. Where you are right now in life is exactly where you are supposed to be, so keep going. Giving up is harder than finishing the fight. Knowing what you could have been, and what you could have done will hurt you and hunt you for eternity. You will never let it go if you give up. Give your goals, and dreams all you got, and when you feel like you have no more to give, get help! Never be afraid to ask for assistance.

It’s your World Baddie Girl!

Alright…I’m done.

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7 WAYS TO BECOME THE BEST YOU

By Neyara Nior June 1, 2015August 16, 2017 0 205

There are so many ways to better yourself, and grow daily. Everyone wants to be the best, but only a few actually put in the effort to be the best. If you’re serious about growing yourself, here are seven easy and effective ways to become a best you.

7. EDUCATE YOURSELF

Education is important, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I’m not saying we should all be walking around with graduate degrees, but never be afraid of learning more, and going beyond. Learning isn’t always in a classroom. You can learn some of the best lessons in the real world and through traveling.

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”

-Benjamin Franklin

You will always reap beautiful rewards when you’re open to learning more. You will never know your own potential if you never get out of your one dimensional box. Never settle, you deserve to explore. Be vulnerable to new experiences, take yourself out of your comfort zone and be free.

6. FIND YOUR PASION

Have you found that thing that you LOVE? That thing that moves your spirit and makes you feel alive? If you haven’t, that’s okay, because you’ll know when you find it.

When you find your passion, it will move you and those who you come into contact with you. If your passion is in drawing, writing, or building putting your all into it will be effortless. Don’t worry about anyone’s opinion, because there will be so many people that will love what you do because they will see the passion you’ve poured into your craft. We often look to be perfect at our passion, but perfection is nonexistent, because you get better each day. Continue to pour into your passion and share your passion.

5. FIND A MENTOR

Motivational speaker and self help guru, Jim Rohn, once said,

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

This speaks volumes. I guess momma was right, huh? You are who you hang around. So make sure those five people count!

Be careful who you put your energy into, and who’s energy you allow into your life. You always want to be around those who want what’s best for you, and you should want what’s best for them in return. Although you will learn from your mentor, remember that it’s still a two lane street, you both should offer something to each other that will grow you both. You never want to be a person who continuously takes from others. Just as you are happy to receive, you should be just as happy to give.

4. BE A MENTOR

Selfishness is never a quality you want to have. Give freely, teach someone about something they don’t know, or want to know. You never know what impact you may have on somebody. You could bring out the potential and success of a person that they may not have known they had. You don’t have to tell all of your secrets, there are some things only you should know, but never be afraid to help grow someone.

3. POSITIVE PEOPLE ONLY

Negativity won’t do anything good for you anyway! Some people may not understand your plans, and future goals, so keep yourself around like-minded people who will push you to better yourself. Remove all those leeches from your life! You deserve to be uplifted even if you feel your goals are small. Pessimistic people are no good for you if you are trying to be successful at anything. Remember, you are who you attract, so if you find yourself around a lot of negativity and unhappy people, check yourself. Make sure you have a positive outlook on life, and are determined to show the greatness within you. You’ll be surprised how much your positive attitude can change your perspective, and life.

2. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

If you want to grow, place yourself in uncertainty. I dropped everything and left for Washington, D.C., and I don’t regret it. My struggle was truly real in the city. I experienced everything from a homicide on my block, no heat in the winter to my car being crashed into in a stolen car chase. However, I met some amazing people, and I worked everywhere from NBC to the Capitol. Personal growth only occurs when you are faced with an unprecedented situation that forces you to expand your comfort boundaries. This is how you become stronger.

1. VISUALIZE WHO YOU ARE

As I continue to move forward with entrepreneurship, I often wonder what is my niche, and what I want to be known for. One of my girlfriends saw me struggling with this and she told me to write out my obituary one day. I thought she had gone crazy, (things that makes you say WTF?!). Little did I know this was one of the best things I could ever do! I had to force myself to think, how do I want to be remembered when I depart this Earth, how I want my future great-grandchildren to see me, and, in all, the legacy I would be leaving behind. I tell anyone who is trying to find themselves to do the same. Of course you don’t have to write your obituary, but at least write out the type of woman you want to be, and what you want to be known for. Sit down, write the vision and make it plain!

Remember that you’re valuable, know yourself worth, and believe in yourself; I promise you will be happy, and live an awesome life. Go get what’s out there for you, whether you start your own business, or go overseas to volunteer. Never stop growing, accept your flaws, and know that your life has already begun.

What are you doing to become the best you?

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ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER: DON’T BE CONTROLLED BY HIS WORDS

By Neyara Nior June 1, 2015August 16, 2017 0 140

So, I’m sitting in Sunday School, one Sunday (long ago-okay not that long ago…okay it was long ago), and we’re discussing the power words have. My teacher began talking about how there is power in our words, and that we should speak life.

Many of us are told this, but how many of us actually believe there is power in our words, and actually speak positivity into our lives and the lives of others?

So of course twenty minutes in, my mind has wandered off, (sorry Jesus), into how powerful words are in relationships. I began to think how much power we, as women, put into a man’s words, and how we often give men power so willingly just by the words he speaks.

Ladies, we have to remember that although there is power in the words a man speaks, there is also power in the words that we speak.

We all know there are so many men, who will tell you any and everything you want to hear, just to get you were they want you. This is why actions are so important. So many times we pay attention to only what they say, and let their words take control, when we should also stay mindful of their actions because they are saying everything. For example, they aren’t calling as much, they are texting. They stop asking those caring and important questions like “how are you” or “did you have a good day?” But because they throw around a few “love you’s” we no longer look at their actions.

Men can speak really great game, and they know this. They know they can finesse, charm, and be the casanova they so anxiously want to be.

I always tell my girlfriends to know they’re man, decipher through the talk, and access effectively. I am a firm believer in men tell you everything in the beginning. Men love to “lay down the law,” think about it. If you pay attention and listen to him, you will learn a lot more about him than you think. Men talk just as much as women. So when you go out, talk less, and listen more.

When you do speak, think first. He doesn’t need to know everything on the first date, or the fifth date. Let things flow, and grow organically. But never be afraid to say what you want. This doesn’t mean put everything on the line on the first date, but you should know what you want, and not be afraid to have expectations. You can’t waste your time having two-hundred first dates in a year.

Dating is fun, but know what you want so that you don’t waste your time on unnecessary men, and possibly unnecessary heartbreak.

Are your eyes and ears open?

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2015: NEW YEAR, NEW YOU!

By Neyara Nior December 19, 2014August 16, 2017 0 193

New Year’s Resolutions will be rolling in shortly–if they haven’t started already. Most people are already thinking about what 2015 will have in store for them, what they want to improve and what more they want to accomplish. Although everyday you learn something new, and should be improving and enhancing yourself daily, the New Year is like a clean slate to many.

So what can you do to enhance and improve yourself and love?

Just like loosing weight, and poor eating, bad relationships should be something you should cleanse yourself of too. A bad relationship doesn’t always have to be with the person you’re dating. Bad relationships can be at work, school, or with family. A bad relationship is a bad relationship and it can plague your health just like not exercising, or eating fast food everyday.

So when thinking of what your New Year’s Resolutions for 2015 will be, add something to improve you and your relationships with others. Try these:

I’m no longer chasing and begging people to love me who treat me like I’m worthless.

I won’t judge myself off of what other people do.

I won’t continue to take love from the wrong man or woman.

I will love me more. I will choose me first.

Write these down, and put them on your wall, or somewhere you can see them everyday.

Let 2015 be about letting those people who hurt you, and don’t grow you go. All of those people who you aren’t sure about, the people who don’t dream as big as you, the ones who keep you stuck, disrespect you, use you or are just taking up space in your life: LET THEM GO!

You have to make the decision to let go of the things that are stressing and hurting you.

2015 will be here really soon, so if the New Year is your clean slate get ready. Make everything you do count, and don’t let anyone stop you from achieving your vision of success.

What’s your New Year’s Resolution?

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7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE BORED

By Baddie Girl Team August 11, 2014August 16, 2017 0 549

Let’s be honest, being lazy can be relaxing and comfortable, but being bored is like experiencing a slow and painful death. It’s time to take full control of our lives. Do not let this World pass you by because you feel like you have nothing to do. There are so many things to do, both outside, and in the comfort of your home.

Here are some things that you can do to help pass time, keep your brain working, and overall be free and live.

7. MAKE YOUR BED

Start off your day with something productive as making a bed. This is the easiest thing you can do; therefore it should be the first thing you do. If you feel like you can’t get out the bed, when you get up to go to the bathroom, and you come back to your room, make your bed, and go to another part of your home. Once your bed is made, and your room looks neat you won’t want to mess it up, plus coming home to a clean room will bring you peace.

6. PUT TOGETHER A PUZZLE

This is the old school brain game. Although it can get frustrating, it keeps your mind busy, and takes your mind off all of the other craziness that may be going on around you. If you don’t want to go hardcore and do a thousand piece puzzle, do a five-hundred piece puzzle. Turn on the television, or play some music while you put together your puzzle, and stay in your comfy clothes! It’s all about relaxing, and keeping your mind busy on something positive.

5. CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET

Spring may be coming to a close, but its never a bad time to get those clothes out of your closet that you haven’t worn since you were in high school. If you haven’t worn it in the last year, donate it! You’ll feel more organized, and the bonus is, you’ll have space for new clothes!

4. READ A BOOK

If you haven’t already found a book, go to your local book store, and find something by your favorite author, then go to the park, or your back yard and read. If you need a recommendation, there are plenty suggestions here.

3. TRY A NEW RESTUARANT

Don’t stick to what you know, try something different. Try a new restaurant or if you have a favorite restaurant, try a new dish. Call your girlfriends, and make a girls day out of it. Your girlfriends should also be your network of positive energy. So there’s no need to worry about all of the things that aren’t going the best in your life. Live in the moment and enjoy the food, girl talk and good drinks!

2. DO YOUR MAEUP

You think the little things don’t make a difference? It’s all in the little things! You may not feel like actually putting on a full face of makeup, but do it anyway! Go for a glamourous look or keep it chic and natural. Having your face done will make you feel brand new. I promise as soon as you finish putting the mascara on your lashes, you’ll be ready to get out the house and do something.

1. TRY A DIY PROJECT

Do you have something old that you can refurbish? Take your time, and turn it into a one of a kind piece. It could be anything from a pair of shorts to a night stand you want to make stand out. There are so many projects on Pinterest that you can take advantage of you should never get bored. Depending on the project you can call your girlfriends over, or make your boo help you. Who wouldn’t love to hang out while bringing something that has depreciated into a masterpiece of value.

It is so easy to let laziness, depression or just “I Ain’t Gonna Do It” set in, but you have to put yourself together and enjoy everyday. Things may not always go your way, but remember you have the authority to make everyday count. Go out and rediscover what fun really is!

What are you going to do when boredom strikes?

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IT’S TIME TO “HONOR THY SELF!”

By Neyara Nior March 17, 2014August 16, 2017 0 157

The beauty of women.

We’re nurtures, we over-protect, we love hard, and a lot of other things. I get it. I understand. I’m a woman. But when are we going to stop doing this for others, and do it for ourselves?

I’ve noticed with my girlfriends and myself that we will nurture everyone, especially a man, but ourselves. It is time we nurture ourselves, be overprotective of our hearts and love on ourselves real hard, rather than waiting for someone to love on us. This way, we can be our best selves for ourselves, and truly be ready to nurture someone else, whether it’s our girlfriends, our man, or a child.

Honor thy self!

This is when it is okay to be selfish; acceptable selfishness, if you will. It’s you and the world. Love on yourself! Take a moment out of your day, every day, and do something for you. This is when you find your peace. Do the things you like to do and exploit the things that makes you happy, and do those things in abundance.

Take yourself to brunch, go to a book fair, visit the local museum you’ve been meaning to go to. HONOR THY SELF! Put you over everything and everybody.

I call it M.O.Y., Me Over You. If this sounds offensive, then you aren’t putting enough time into yourself. M.O.Y. means, I love you, but I love me more. You should never feel sorry about thinking of you.

M.O.Y. “Me Over You” This means I love you, but I love me more!

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Whenever my girlfriends are in crazy love situations I always ask first, “How much do you love yourself?” The answer is usually “a lot.” I usually rebuttal back with, “well, it sounds like you love him more than you love yourself, because you’re allowing him to hurt you.” That’s when the re-evaluation, with a different mindset, begins.

Read: How To Get Out Of Your Mess With A New Mindset

Men think this way all the time! Think about it.

When you really love you, and think with a M.O.Y. attitude, you evaluate situations differently. When you start putting yourself first, you react in a way that is positive for you. You have to do what’s best for you. Everybody is not going to react to situations the way you’d like, so it’s okay for you to stop, think about you, and then react, even if it means they aren’t happy with your decision.

Be protective of who you open up to, be careful of who you open your heart to, and nurture those who nurture you. Remember M.O.Y.: Me Over You-I love you, but I love me more.

For advice on your relationship, email: thetruth@baddiegirl.com

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YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT

By Neyara Nior March 10, 2014August 16, 2017 0 96

Ever notice how we often fight for the one’s who are our ultimate downfall, rather than the one’s who are team you, and want to uplift and inspire.

In relationships especially the romantic ones, we, as women, will fight for a man to stay, even when it’s apparent that his season in our life is over. I’ve learned that although it may be hard, if a man walks out of your life, the only reason you should stop him, is because you want to open the door for him to walk out of.

No need to ask questions, or try to talk it out with him. If he has made up in his mind that you are not worth fighting for, and wants to leave, let him leave. No need to fight for someone who isn’t fighting for you.

Easier said than done. I know. I’ve been there.

But what’s worse, fighting for a man who doesn’t fully respect who you are and the role you thought you played in his life, or letting him go?

So just in case no one has told you, or maybe you haven’t been told in while, know that you are special, and are worth fighting for. You deserve someone who gives you the respect of trying to work out the kinks in your relationship rather than walking out on you just because times got tough.

Do not ever fight for someone to stay if hey would not do it in return for you.

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LISTEN GIRL: GET OUT OF YOUR CYCLE OF MESS!

By Neyara Nior February 17, 2014August 16, 2017 4 126

Mess is everywhere, and in everything. You can have relationship mess, family mess, and job mess, there is always mess. But we can’t get stuck in mess. I had a mentor who would always tell me, “Brittney, don’t step in shit, step over it!” When I get caught up in some mess, I sometimes have to tell myself to step over it.

It took me a while to realize what my mentor meant by this. But in essence, it means that we have control over a lot of things. We may not have control over our skin color, race, or people’s actions, but we do have control over how we react to situations. Sometimes it’s easy to step in mess; however, you can step over mess, by realizing what you have control over, and you will always have control of you. React in a way that will get you the positive results you want.

I’ve learned that when we continue in the cycle of mess, we deny ourselves the opportunity to grow. We do the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. However, to remove ourselves from the cycle of mess we have to move into a new thought process and do something different.

I was the reigning queen of the cycle of mess not too long ago. My first love popped back into my life, for the third or fourth time, (who’s really counting?) and of course, I allowed him back in. My arms, and heart were wide open. I was expecting him to give me better results from the last time when I had given him a second chance after he broke my heart.

See the cycle?

The same man who broke my heart a few years earlier, walked back into my life, again, and again, and I allowed it, expecting him to actually do the things he said he would do. You can’t do the same things over and over again and expect different results, the next time. Nothing in life works that way.

I had to realize what I did have control over. I had control over how I allowed him to treat me. I had control over not letting him use me for his own gain, as well as him hurting me.

Read: How A Man Can Use You For His Own Gain!

I was hurting myself every time I let him back in. I was stuck in my own cycle of mess. I was stuck for a while too, but I finally saw the light, which was my self-worth.

Word to the wise: What we focus on determines what we miss. #Baddie #GirlTalk #Advice #Relationships

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My cycle of mess with my first love, became second nature. I knew he would come back. It was hard for me to remove myself from my toxic situation and get out of that cycle of mess. Allowing him to come back into my life, time and time again, made me miss out on a lot. That’s time I won’t ever get back, which I’m okay with, now.

I was so worried about him, and concerned with what he was doing that I stopped doing me, and what made me happy. Blogging= Stopped. Hanging out with my girls= Stopped. Life= Stopped. I was sleepwalking through life, and that’s never okay.

See, it’s not the hand you’re dealt, but how you play the cards that makes the difference. We have to move out of the cycle of mess. Most times we create the cycle unknowingly, as I did with my first love. It is time for us to grow and prosper and be our best self, for our self. Even if it means removing ourselves from toxic relationships that we have grown accustomed to.

I say this to be a wake up call to you. If you’re sleepwalking because you’re in a cycle of mess, WAKE UP! Do not press snooze again, and allow the cycle to continue. You do not have to become a victim to other people’s actions. Realize what you have control over, and you have complete control over how you respond to mess. Every decision you make moves you towards something; make sure it’s positive.

For advice on your relationship, email: thetruth@baddiegirl.com

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5 THINGS YOU DON’T NEED TO DO

Don’t hesitate too long.

Don’t expect too much.

Don’t appreciate too little.

Don’t love too late.

Don’t give up too soon.

7 WAYS TO BECOME THE BEST YOU

7. EDUCATE YOURSELF

6. FIND YOUR PASION

5. FIND A MENTOR

4. BE A MENTOR

3. POSITIVE PEOPLE ONLY

2. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

1. VISUALIZE WHO YOU ARE

What are you doing to become the best you?

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER: DON’T BE CONTROLLED BY HIS WORDS

2015: NEW YEAR, NEW YOU!

7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE BORED

7. MAKE YOUR BED

6. PUT TOGETHER A PUZZLE

5. CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET

4. READ A BOOK

3. TRY A NEW RESTUARANT

2. DO YOUR MAEUP

1. TRY A DIY PROJECT

IT’S TIME TO “HONOR THY SELF!”

YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT

LISTEN GIRL: GET OUT OF YOUR CYCLE OF MESS!

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