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5 THINGS YOU DON’T NEED TO DO

There is so much advice on things to do to find happiness, getting the promotion you want, and to find love, but there are some things you don’t need to do to have a healthy, happy fulfilling life. Starting with these five things:

Don’t hesitate too long.

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If you’ve been wanting to do something, do it! Don’t worry about what others will say, or if you fail. Get out of your comfort zone and make it happen. Sometimes when you have to make a major decision, it doesn’t feel right, and that’s usually doubt. Don’t let doubt control your life decisions. You deserve happiness. Whether you’re leaving home for the first time, finishing a book you started years ago, or starting a new business. Don’t hesitate on it if it’s something that will grow you as a person.

Don’t expect too much.

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It never amazes me when people disappoint me. People are not going to always react the way you want them to, or handle a situation you think they should. Ladies, please keep your expectations low when dealing with some of these men and your friends too. We are all human, we make mistakes, and for the most part, we handle situations the best way we know how. Expectations can easily lead to disappointments, so keep your expectations of others low.

Don’t appreciate too little.

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If someone does something nice for you, say thank you. No one owes you anything. So be kind, be genuine and know that there are people on this Earth that wants what’s best for you! Sometimes we’re so used to getting the shitty end of the stick that we don’t realize the good that people do for us, and want for us. Be appreciative of the small victories in life, I assure you, they matter!

Don’t love too late.

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You only get one life. Honestly, you only love purely and fearlessly once-which is usually your first love. Your first love is your purest because you weren’t afraid to love; it may have happened unexpectedly. Although your first love may not have ended with your dream wedding and house, kids and forever, you can’t be afraid to put yourself out there and love again. You deserve to love someone who loves you just as much, if not more than you love them. Don’t wait too late to realize that you are worthy of TRUE love. Have fun, laugh uncontrollably, dream decadently, and don’t let love pass you by.

Don’t give up too soon.

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Tired yet? That’s fine, but do not give up! You are almost exactly where you WANT to be. Where you are right now in life is exactly where you are supposed to be, so keep going. Giving up is harder than finishing the fight. Knowing what you could have been, and what you could have done will hurt you and hunt you for eternity. You will never let it go if you give up. Give your goals, and dreams all you got, and when you feel like you have no more to give, get help! Never be afraid to ask for assistance.

It’s your World Baddie Girl!

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Alright…I’m done.

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7 WAYS TO BECOME THE BEST YOU

There are so many ways to better yourself, and grow daily. Everyone wants to be the best, but only a few actually put in the effort to be the best. If you’re serious about growing yourself, here are seven easy and effective ways to become a best you. 

7. EDUCATE YOURSELF

Education is important, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I’m not saying we should all be walking around with graduate degrees, but never be afraid of learning more, and going beyond. Learning isn’t always in a classroom. You can learn some of the best lessons in the real world and through traveling. 

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”
-Benjamin Franklin

You will always reap beautiful rewards when you’re open to learning more.  You will never know your own potential if you never get out of your one dimensional box. Never settle, you deserve to explore. Be vulnerable to new experiences, take yourself out of your comfort zone and be free.

6. FIND YOUR PASION

Have you found that thing that you LOVE? That thing that moves your spirit and makes you feel alive? If you haven’t, that’s okay, because you’ll know when you find it.

When you find your passion, it will move you and those who you come into contact with you. If your passion is in drawing, writing, or building putting your all into it will be effortless. Don’t worry about anyone’s opinion, because there will be so many people that will love what you do because they will see the passion you’ve poured into your craft. We often look to be perfect at our passion, but perfection is nonexistent, because you get better each day. Continue to pour into your passion and share your passion.

5. FIND A MENTOR

Motivational speaker and self help guru, Jim Rohn, once said,

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

This speaks volumes. I guess momma was right, huh? You are who you hang around. So make sure those five people count!

Be careful who you put your energy into, and who’s energy you allow into your life. You always want to be around those who want what’s best for you, and you should want what’s best for them in return. Although you will learn from your mentor, remember that it’s still a two lane street, you both should offer something to each other that will grow you both. You never want to be a person who continuously takes from others. Just as you are happy to receive, you should be just as happy to give.

4. BE A MENTOR

Selfishness is never a quality you want to have. Give freely, teach someone about something they don’t know, or want to know. You never know what impact you may have on somebody. You could bring out the potential and success of a person that they may not have known they had. You don’t have to tell all of your secrets, there are some things only you should know, but never be afraid to help grow someone. 

3. POSITIVE PEOPLE ONLY

Negativity won’t do anything good for you anyway! Some people may not understand your plans, and future goals, so keep yourself around like-minded people who will push you to better yourself. Remove all those leeches from your life! You deserve to be uplifted even if you feel your goals are small. Pessimistic people are no good for you if you are trying to be successful at anything. Remember, you are who you attract, so if you find yourself around a lot of negativity and unhappy people, check yourself. Make sure you have a positive outlook on life, and are determined to show the greatness within you. You’ll be surprised how much your positive attitude can change your perspective, and life.

2. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

If you want to grow, place yourself in uncertainty. I dropped everything and left for Washington, D.C., and I don’t regret it. My struggle was truly real in the city. I experienced everything from a homicide on my block, no heat in the winter to my car being crashed into in a stolen car chase. However, I met some amazing people, and I worked everywhere from NBC to the Capitol. Personal growth only occurs when you are faced with an unprecedented situation that forces you to expand your comfort boundaries. This is how you become stronger.

1. VISUALIZE WHO YOU ARE

As I continue to move forward with entrepreneurship, I often wonder what is my niche, and what I want to be known for. One of my girlfriends saw me struggling with this and she told me to write out my obituary one day. I thought she had gone crazy, (things that makes you say WTF?!). Little did I know this was one of the best things I could ever do! I had to force myself to think, how do I want to be remembered when I depart this Earth, how I want my future great-grandchildren to see me, and, in all, the legacy I would be leaving behind. I tell anyone who is trying to find themselves to do the same. Of course you don’t have to write your obituary, but at least write out the type of woman you want to be, and what you want to be known for. Sit down, write the vision and make it plain!

Remember that you’re valuable, know yourself worth, and believe in yourself; I promise you will be happy, and live an awesome life. Go get what’s out there for you, whether you start your own business, or go overseas to volunteer. Never stop growing, accept your flaws, and know that your life has already begun.

What are you doing to become the best you?

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NO MORE MR. WRONG! HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR MR. RIGHT

It’s not about finding your Mr. Right, it’s about preparing yourself for your perfect mate. He will be your Mr. Right.

 

Where the good men at?” “I’m looking for my Mr. Right!” “Where is my Mr. Right?

 

I’ve heard it, you’ve heard it, your momma has heard, and I can promise you, your grandmother has heard it too! Finding a good man has been the topic in all the girl talks around the world, and is usually the start to some good girlfriend conversation. But enough! I’m here to help my Baddie Girl’s out with this, so that we can put an end to the epidemic of women who are constantly asking, “Where is my Mr. Right?”

First things first, stop looking for a “Mr. Right.” Your Mr. Right does exist, but it is not your job to look for him. He should find you. You aren’t a hunter trying to capture a lion! So take off your looking for a man sneakers, and put your heels back on.

When I say don’t look for Mr. Right, this doesn’t mean you just sit at home, and hope he pops up when you need to run for gas, or go grocery shopping. No. You want to go live your life. You know what you like to do, so do it! Get out and go to places, and events that you love. Go wine tasting, or try that ballroom class you’ve been putting off. It’ll be easier to attract a great guy, that thinks you’re beautiful, and the awesome thing is that you will already have something in common.

An important element in preparing for your Mr. Right is showing yourself respect. You must present yourself accordingly. You attract what you put out. When you leave the house, you should walk with confidence, and know that you are worthy of greatness. In doing this, your attire, and attitude should compliment each other. If you dress like a lady, and act as one, you will attract a gentleman; if you dress risque, and act out of order, you will attract a guy that more interested in your physical attributes.

On the contrary, what you don’t want to do, is go to places where couples flock. So that couple’s cooking class your girlfriend asked you to go to with her, don’t go, because you’ll feel like the odd woman out when everyone there is coupled up with their special lover, and you’re there with your best friend. You also shouldn’t call your girlfriends, and say, “Where the men at tonight?” I understand, not wanting to be around a bunch of women every time you go out, when you’re trying to meet some nice men in your area. In order to come across those men, you have to not look for them, or think hard about it, but go out and have fun!

The hardest part in preparing for your Mr. Right, is knowing how to respectfully reject those men who don’t fit your needs. This sounds harsh, but it’s real life. There’s no need to take a guy’s number, whom you don’t intend on texting or calling ever in life, or giving your number to a guy who you don’t want texting or calling you. Being led on, with nowhere to go, doesn’t feel good, and in the end someone always gets hurt. So don’t lead a man on to no man’s land. If you’re not interested in a guy who is clearly interested in you, don’t have him waste anymore time on you, to stroke your ego. Politely let him know that you are not interested. No need to block your blessing, or his.

It’s simple. The keys to preparing yourself for your Mr. Right is, to stop looking for him, and let him find you; live your life doing the things you love to do; know yourself, and what you like; present yourself with the respect you desire, and know how to say no to the guys you are not interested in.

Now get out, and do what you love!

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IT’S TIME TO “HONOR THY SELF!”

The beauty of women.

We’re nurtures, we over-protect, we love hard, and a lot of other things. I get it. I understand. I’m a woman. But when are we going to stop doing this for others, and do it for ourselves?

I’ve noticed with my girlfriends and myself that we will nurture everyone, especially a man, but ourselves. It is time we nurture ourselves, be overprotective of our hearts and love on ourselves real hard, rather than waiting for someone to love on us. This way, we can be our best selves for ourselves, and truly be ready to nurture someone else, whether it’s our girlfriends, our man, or a child.

Honor thy self!

This is when it is okay to be selfish; acceptable selfishness, if you will. It’s you and the world. Love on yourself! Take a moment out of your day, every day, and do something for you. This is when you find your peace. Do the things you like to do and exploit the things that makes you happy, and do those things in abundance.

Take yourself to brunch, go to a book fair, visit the local museum you’ve been meaning to go to. HONOR THY SELF! Put you over everything and everybody.

I call it M.O.Y., Me Over You. If this sounds offensive, then you aren’t putting enough time into yourself. M.O.Y. means, I love you, but I love me more. You should never feel sorry about thinking of you.

Whenever my girlfriends are in crazy love situations I always ask first, “How much do you love yourself?” The answer is usually “a lot.” I usually rebuttal back with, “well, it sounds like you love him more than you love yourself, because you’re allowing him to hurt you.” That’s when the re-evaluation, with a different mindset, begins.

Read: How To Get Out Of Your Mess With A New Mindset

Men think this way all the time! Think about it.

When you really love you, and think with a M.O.Y. attitude, you evaluate situations differently. When you start putting yourself first, you react in a way that is positive for you. You have to do what’s best for you. Everybody is not going to react to situations the way you’d like, so it’s okay for you to stop, think about you, and then react, even if it means they aren’t happy with your decision.

Be protective of who you open up to, be careful of who you open your heart to, and nurture those who nurture you. Remember M.O.Y.: Me Over You-I love you, but I love me more.

For advice on your relationship, email: thetruth@baddiegirl.com

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YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT

Ever notice how we often fight for the one’s who are our ultimate downfall, rather than the one’s who are team you, and want to uplift and inspire.

In relationships especially the romantic ones, we, as women, will fight for a man to stay, even when it’s apparent that his season in our life is over. I’ve learned that although it may be hard, if a man walks out of your life, the only reason you should stop him, is because you want to open the door for him to walk out of.

No need to ask questions, or try to talk it out with him. If he has made up in his mind that you are not worth fighting for, and wants to leave, let him leave. No need to fight for someone who isn’t fighting for you.

Easier said than done. I know. I’ve been there.

But what’s worse, fighting for a man who doesn’t fully respect who you are and the role you thought you played in his life, or letting him go? 

So just in case no one has told you, or maybe you haven’t been told in while, know that you are special, and are worth fighting for. You deserve someone who gives you the respect of trying to work out the kinks in your relationship rather than walking out on you just because times got tough.

Do not ever fight for someone to stay if hey would not do it in return for you.

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HE CHEATED, DO I NEED A PLAN B?

 

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I was asked to give my opinion and some advice on a young lady’s situation.

She feels as though she needs a plan b, because her boyfriend cheated on her.

So, why pack your bags and not leave? That’s what having a plan b is doing. You have one foot in your mess, and another foot trying to walk away.

Read: How To Get Out Of Your Mess

I don’t think you need a Plan B in your relationship, if you feel as though the relationship is not going to work, leave. It’s that simple.

Watch the video above to see my full response.

Do you have a Plan B? Do you think you need a Plan B in your relationship?

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LISTEN GIRL: GET OUT OF YOUR CYCLE OF MESS!

Mess is everywhere, and in everything. You can have relationship mess, family mess, and job mess, there is always mess. But we can’t get stuck in mess. I had a mentor who would always tell me, “Brittney, don’t step in shit, step over it!” When I get caught up in some mess, I sometimes have to tell myself to step over it.

It took me a while to realize what my mentor meant by this. But in essence, it means that we have control over a lot of things. We may not have control over our skin color, race, or people’s actions, but we do have control over how we react to situations.  Sometimes it’s easy to step in mess; however, you can step over mess, by realizing what you have control over, and you will always have control of you. React in a way that will get you the positive results you want.

I’ve learned that when we continue in the cycle of mess, we deny ourselves the opportunity to grow. We do the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. However, to remove ourselves from the cycle of mess we have to move into a new thought process and do something different.

I was the reigning queen of the cycle of mess not too long ago. My first love popped back into my life, for the third or fourth time, (who’s really counting?) and of course, I allowed him back in. My arms, and heart were wide open. I was expecting him to give me better results from the last time when I had given him a second chance after he broke my heart.

See the cycle?

The same man who broke my heart a few years earlier, walked back into my life, again, and again, and I allowed it, expecting him to actually do the things he said he would do. You can’t do the same things over and over again and expect different results, the next time. Nothing in life works that way.

I had to realize what I did have control over. I had control over how I allowed him to treat me. I had control over not letting him use me for his own gain, as well as him hurting me.

Read: How A Man Can Use You For His Own Gain!

I was hurting myself every time I let him back in. I was stuck in my own cycle of mess. I was stuck for a while too, but I finally saw the light, which was my self-worth.

My cycle of mess with my first love, became second nature. I knew he would come back. It was hard for me to remove myself from my toxic situation and get out of that cycle of mess. Allowing him to come back into my life, time and time again, made me miss out on a lot. That’s time I won’t ever get back, which I’m okay with, now.

I was so worried about him, and concerned with what he was doing that I stopped doing me, and what made me happy. Blogging= Stopped. Hanging out with my girls= Stopped. Life= Stopped. I was sleepwalking through life, and that’s never okay.

See, it’s not the hand you’re dealt, but how you play the cards that makes the difference. We have to move out of the cycle of mess. Most times we create the cycle unknowingly, as I did with my first love. It is time for us to grow and prosper and be our best self, for our self. Even if it means removing ourselves from toxic relationships that we have grown accustomed to.

I say this to be a wake up call to you. If you’re sleepwalking because you’re in a cycle of mess, WAKE UP! Do not press snooze again, and allow the cycle to continue. You do not have to become a victim to other people’s actions. Realize what you have control over, and you have complete control over how you respond to mess. Every decision you make moves you towards something; make sure it’s positive.

For advice on your relationship, email: thetruth@baddiegirl.com

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PERFECTLY IMPERFECT AND LOVING IT!

To be perfectly imperfect, is to realize that you are not perfect and still love yourself.

In today’s society it seems as though everyone wants to be perfect, but that simply does not exist. Although you may not be perfect, you are so special, but you have to know that for yourself. It’s time you start loving your imperfect self.

Let those around you know that they are beautiful, special, and don’t be afraid to say that you love them as well. Uplift and inspire those people around you, you never know who you may be a blessing to.

Here are some ways to appreciate your perfectly imperfect self.

6. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

You’ve come through some tough situations. Looking from the outside in, some may not have even known you went through some of the things you overcame. Be happy that you are moving forward, and stay positive.

5. NOTICE YOUR SUCCESS

It’s easy to just move through this life in our normal routine. But stop. Realize how far you’ve come in whatever project you’re working on. It’s okay to appreciate you for your accomplishments. If you’ve tackled a big project its perfectly fine to eat a cupcake with a glass of wine. Don’t wait for anyone to celebrate with you, celebrate yourself with yourself.

4. FIND BEAUTY IN EVERYTHING

There is beauty in the worst of days, but it’s up to you to find the beauty.  There is beauty in the things you may not like about yourself. You may feel as though you are one flawed individual, but you have to love on you and realize how beautiful you are, both inside and out.

3. FOCUS ON TODAY

Tomorrow is gone, and tomorrow hasn’t come, so focus on today. Stop over-thinking things that aren’t in your control. Enjoy today, and stop stressing what hasn’t had yet to come. So focus on the great things that are happening around you. 

2. FORGET TO WORRY

Worrying will make you sick. When you find yourself in a situation where you instantly begin to worry, find positivity around you. Find something to smile about, and then laugh. To worry is to waste time. Disappointments happen. Everything won’t go the way you plan and people will not do the things you want them to or react the way you would like them to.

1. DON’T LOOSE YOUR BARK

Don’t ever loose yourself in a job that isn’t your dream, or in helping someone else’s dream at all. I’ve done it, and it isn’t worth it. Know your worth. Know your voice and don’t let anyone try to dim your light. Know that you are special, and that you have something to offer this world. 

I hope you can realize through your imperfection you are perfection. God makes no mistakes.

How do you deal with loving yourself through your flaws and imperfections?

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