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FRIEND vs. FRIENEMIE: SHOULD YOU DO BUSINESS?
FRIENDSHIPS LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

FRIEND vs. FRIENEMIE: SHOULD YOU DO BUSINESS?

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Doing business with friends is a topic that some stay away from. Some people are all for it, while others are totally against it. One thing is certain, before you do business with anyone, you have to know who you’re dealing with, and if true colors surface later, listen to Maya Angelou: “When someone shows you who they are—Believe Them!”

 

If you truly know who your friends are, there won’t be a problem if you do business with each other, and it could possibly enhance your friendship in a positive way. If you know that your personalities will clash with the vigorous scheduling and tight work schedule, then of course, doing business will not be the best thing to do, as there will be many late nights, and trust will be tested on a regular basis. Ground rules must be set, a plan of action needs to be put into place to work through the business plan, and you all must have the same vision and end goal in mind.

 

Working with friends, is about overcoming the difficult situations, and working through the uncomfortable moments that matter. As friends if one of you are unhappy with an outcome, you have to take time to sit down, and give each other the opportunity to both say how you feel, understand what each other are saying because both of your feelings are valid. Then begins the process of moving forward, and making conscious efforts to be effective still while meeting everyone’s desires. That’s how real women take charge-friends or not.

 

However, it seems that many women don’t know how to choose friends, or it could be that we as women put too much on the table in the beginning. Women gain “frenemies”, or in nicer words acquaintances, because they put too much trust in untrustworthy people, and untrustworthy people will turn on you! When you make new “friends” you have to treat it like a real relationship, because in the end it will be. 

Working with friends

Start on page one and you move forward one page at a time. Don’t move to chapter eight, because you like what they’ve shown you in a few days. Take time and feel people out, especially those who you want to invest in. You don’t have to put your whole life story on the table, with who you know, and how you plan to be successful. Don’t give chapters one through thirteen over dinner one night in a short synopsis.

 

You should never be putting more out than the other person, unless you are the CEO. If this is an equal business endeavor, it should be an equal give and take process. You’re building not only a friendship, but you’re building a work relationship. Going through things, and seeing how people handle situations help you to determine if someone has good character and are worthy to be your friend. No more meeting and instantly you’re besties.

 

Be wise about who you tell your business to, and who you do business with. Doing business with friends can be a beautiful thing, if you both have an understanding of each other, and are both working towards the same goal. However, when you mistake frenemies for friends, that’s when ugly situations arise, and you’ll become vulnerable, because you’ve shared your all, and they will use your all against you.

Do you know who your friends, and freneimies are? Do you believe in doing business with friends?

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7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE BORED
LIFESTYLE WORD OF ADVICE

7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE BORED

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Let’s be honest, being lazy can be relaxing and comfortable, but being bored is like experiencing a slow and painful death. It’s time to take full control of our lives. Do not let this World pass you by because you feel like you have nothing to do. There are so many things to do, both outside, and in the comfort of your home.

Here are some things that you can do to help pass time, keep your brain working, and overall be free and live.

7. MAKE YOUR BED

Start off your day with something productive as making a bed. This is the easiest thing you can do; therefore it should be the first thing you do. If you feel like you can’t get out the bed, when you get up to go to the bathroom, and you come back to your room, make your bed, and go to another part of your home. Once your bed is made, and your room looks neat you won’t want to mess it up, plus coming home to a clean room will bring you peace.

6. PUT TOGETHER A PUZZLE

This is the old school brain game. Although it can get frustrating, it keeps your mind busy, and takes your mind off all of the other craziness that may be going on around you. If you don’t want to go hardcore and do a thousand piece puzzle, do a five-hundred piece puzzle. Turn on the television, or play some music while you put together your puzzle, and stay in your comfy clothes! It’s all about relaxing, and keeping your mind busy on something positive.

5. CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET

Spring may be coming to a close, but its never a bad time to get those clothes out of your closet that you haven’t worn since you were in high school. If you haven’t worn it in the last year, donate it! You’ll feel more organized, and the bonus is, you’ll have space for new clothes!

4. READ A BOOK

If you haven’t already found a book, go to your local book store, and find something by your favorite author, then go to the park, or your back yard and read. If you need a recommendation, there are plenty suggestions here.

3. TRY A NEW RESTUARANT

Don’t stick to what you know, try something different. Try a new restaurant  or if you have a favorite restaurant, try a new dish. Call your girlfriends, and make a girls day out of it. Your girlfriends should also be your network of positive energy. So there’s no need to worry about all of the things that aren’t going the best in your life. Live in the moment and enjoy the food, girl talk and good drinks!

2. DO YOUR MAEUP

You think the little things don’t make a difference? It’s all in the little things! You may not feel like actually putting on a full face of makeup, but do it anyway! Go for a glamourous look or keep it chic and natural. Having your face done will make you feel brand new. I promise as soon as you finish putting the mascara on your lashes, you’ll be ready to get out the house and do something.

1. TRY A DIY PROJECT

Do you have something old that you can refurbish? Take your time, and turn it into a one of a kind piece. It could be anything from a pair of shorts to a night stand you want to make stand out. There are so many projects on Pinterest that you can take advantage of you should never get bored. Depending on the project you can call your girlfriends over, or make your boo help you. Who wouldn’t love to hang out while bringing something that has depreciated into a masterpiece of value.

It is so easy to let laziness, depression or just “I Ain’t Gonna Do It” set in, but you have to put yourself together and enjoy everyday. Things may not always go your way, but remember you have the authority to make everyday count. Go out and rediscover what fun really is!

What are you going to do when boredom strikes?

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NO MORE MR. WRONG! HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR MR. RIGHT
DATING LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

NO MORE MR. WRONG! HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR MR. RIGHT

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It’s not about finding your Mr. Right, it’s about preparing yourself for your perfect mate. He will be your Mr. Right.

 

“Where the good men at?” “I’m looking for my Mr. Right!” “Where is my Mr. Right?”

 

I’ve heard it, you’ve heard it, your momma has heard, and I can promise you, your grandmother has heard it too! Finding a good man has been the topic in all the girl talks around the world, and is usually the start to some good girlfriend conversation. But enough! I’m here to help my Baddie Girl’s out with this, so that we can put an end to the epidemic of women who are constantly asking, “Where is my Mr. Right?”

First things first, stop looking for a “Mr. Right.” Your Mr. Right does exist, but it is not your job to look for him. He should find you. You aren’t a hunter trying to capture a lion! So take off your looking for a man sneakers, and put your heels back on.

When I say don’t look for Mr. Right, this doesn’t mean you just sit at home, and hope he pops up when you need to run for gas, or go grocery shopping. No. You want to go live your life. You know what you like to do, so do it! Get out and go to places, and events that you love. Go wine tasting, or try that ballroom class you’ve been putting off. It’ll be easier to attract a great guy, that thinks you’re beautiful, and the awesome thing is that you will already have something in common.

An important element in preparing for your Mr. Right is showing yourself respect. You must present yourself accordingly. You attract what you put out. When you leave the house, you should walk with confidence, and know that you are worthy of greatness. In doing this, your attire, and attitude should compliment each other. If you dress like a lady, and act as one, you will attract a gentleman; if you dress risque, and act out of order, you will attract a guy that more interested in your physical attributes.

On the contrary, what you don’t want to do, is go to places where couples flock. So that couple’s cooking class your girlfriend asked you to go to with her, don’t go, because you’ll feel like the odd woman out when everyone there is coupled up with their special lover, and you’re there with your best friend. You also shouldn’t call your girlfriends, and say, “Where the men at tonight?” I understand, not wanting to be around a bunch of women every time you go out, when you’re trying to meet some nice men in your area. In order to come across those men, you have to not look for them, or think hard about it, but go out and have fun!

The hardest part in preparing for your Mr. Right, is knowing how to respectfully reject those men who don’t fit your needs. This sounds harsh, but it’s real life. There’s no need to take a guy’s number, whom you don’t intend on texting or calling ever in life, or giving your number to a guy who you don’t want texting or calling you. Being led on, with nowhere to go, doesn’t feel good, and in the end someone always gets hurt. So don’t lead a man on to no man’s land. If you’re not interested in a guy who is clearly interested in you, don’t have him waste anymore time on you, to stroke your ego. Politely let him know that you are not interested. No need to block your blessing, or his.

It’s simple. The keys to preparing yourself for your Mr. Right is, to stop looking for him, and let him find you; live your life doing the things you love to do; know yourself, and what you like; present yourself with the respect you desire, and know how to say no to the guys you are not interested in.

Now get out, and do what you love!

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YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT
LIFESTYLE WORD OF ADVICE

YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT

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Ever notice how we often fight for the one’s who are our ultimate downfall, rather than the one’s who are team you, and want to uplift and inspire.

In relationships especially the romantic ones, we, as women, will fight for a man to stay, even when it’s apparent that his season in our life is over. I’ve learned that although it may be hard, if a man walks out of your life, the only reason you should stop him, is because you want to open the door for him to walk out of.

No need to ask questions, or try to talk it out with him. If he has made up in his mind that you are not worth fighting for, and wants to leave, let him leave. No need to fight for someone who isn’t fighting for you.

Easier said than done. I know. I’ve been there.

But what’s worse, fighting for a man who doesn’t fully respect who you are and the role you thought you played in his life, or letting him go? 

So just in case no one has told you, or maybe you haven’t been told in while, know that you are special, and are worth fighting for. You deserve someone who gives you the respect of trying to work out the kinks in your relationship rather than walking out on you just because times got tough.

Do not ever fight for someone to stay if hey would not do it in return for you.

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STOP TEXTING! PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK
DATING LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

STOP TEXTING! PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK

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Picture it!

You’ve been working all day. You finally get home, and  you get that one phone call you’ve been waiting for, from the one person you actually want to talk to: your new boo. Although you all just started talking, you can tell he really likes you. It’s obvious that he’s been thinking of you and wanting to call you and now you both can enjoy each other’s conversation.

Yea, that crap isn’t happening like it used to.

I’m coming to the harsh realization that we live in a society that values texting. Texting has become the way of life for so many people. So much that the younger generation is teaching their grandparents how to text!

Lord help.

I cannot stand texting. My patience runs thin when I have to wait for an answer, I know I can get instantly through a phone call. I’ve gone through some serious anxiety waiting for a text response, especially from a man. Not again. If I need you, I will call you; friend, man or relative.

My friends know I hate texting so they usually make an effort to call me, or at least treat me as if I’m a priority call if I do call. (Thank you y’all!) On the other hand, some of my friends have become just horrible with phone calls, but can text you back so fast you’ll still be one the phone waiting for them to pick up. They don’t even realize that this is a problem.

If you can’t communicate effectively through a phone with your girlfriends, how good is your communication with your man?

I’m only being honest.

The other day, me and my girlfriend went out for drinks. Her face was buried into her phone. Of course she was texting her boo. So I asked, “How often do y’all talk on the phone, you know, having an actual voice-to-voice conversation?” She hesitated, then answered, “often.” That little heifa couldn’t tell me the last time they had spoken on the phone. She blamed it on her not being a “phone person,” whatever that is. She thought it was funny, because, I, of course, turned it into an Oprah moment and got on her about it.

What did I tell her?

If that man ain’t over seas fighting for the Country, you should have an actual phone conversation at least two to three times a week. That’s if you all are serious about each other, or moving into being serious with each other. Along with some more of my opinion.

Listen. “Good morning,” and “Have a nice day” texts are sweet, but if you and your boo, aren’t having actual phone conversations, there is a problem. Trust me when I say this, you are NOT the only one getting those sweet text messages throughout the day.

Read: How To Not Loose Focus When You Get Those Sweet Text Messages

I, like a few others on this Earth, value a good phone conversation. Communicating through the phone allows you to become more intimate, and personal. This is the most important reason why you need to talk on the phone. Talking on the phone let’s you in on who a person really is, if you haven’t gone on that first date just yet. You can also learn things about your boo, if you pay attention. Here are a few things you can learn from talking to your boo thang over the phone.

If He Can Hold A Conversation of Substance

You both should be active in the conversation.  However, if he can’t hold your attention over the phone, imagine what will happen on a date. You’ can’t go to the movies forever! While on the phone, there may be a few awkward silences, this isn’t a bad thing, but see how he handles them. Does he just sit there, and listen to you breathe? Does he make small talk, or ask you something interesting? This can easily let you know what type of man he is.

What You All Really Have In Common

“What’s your favorite…” is cute in the beginning, but he should be asking questions that go into the depth of you as a person. You want to be on the same page. See how deep he goes into learning more about you, and what you all have in common. This will tell you if he’s interested in you, or what’s between your legs.  If you realize you aren’t interested in him, you won’t be able to hide or deny it.

Whether Or Not He Talks To You Or Talks At You

All I will say about this is, you will be able to tell if he actually pays attention to you and the things you say, or if he’s self-absorbed and only wants to talk about himself. It doesn’t matter how long you all have known each other, he should be interested in getting to know who you are as a person of interest, not his homeboy.

I will talk more in depth  about this at a later date.

If He’s Really All He Claims to Be

You can’t hide that you aren’t as intellectual as you claim to be on social networks while on the phone. He’s bound to show you his true colors at some point. Ask trick questions if you have to! It’s going to get real. If you have yet to go out with your new boo, you’ll be able to see him in his true essence over the phone. When you start seeing him for who he really is, assess whether he has potential to be something serious, or if he needs to sit over in the friend zone.

Stop texting so much! Pick up the phone and see what that man is really about. I’m not saying go call your boo right now. I am saying there should be more to your relationship than texting, especially in the beginning. One day tell him that you can’t text at that moment, and you will call him in about 20 minutes. See how he reacts. If you do call, and he doesn’t pick up, or call you back, and this happens at least twice, you know you’re not the only one, and he may not be that into you. Sorry boo. Go talk to somebody who wants to talk to you, and learn more about who you really are.

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