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2015: NEW YEAR, NEW YOU!

By Neyara Nior December 19, 2014August 16, 2017 0 193

New Year’s Resolutions will be rolling in shortly–if they haven’t started already. Most people are already thinking about what 2015 will have in store for them, what they want to improve and what more they want to accomplish. Although everyday you learn something new, and should be improving and enhancing yourself daily, the New Year is like a clean slate to many.

So what can you do to enhance and improve yourself and love?

Just like loosing weight, and poor eating, bad relationships should be something you should cleanse yourself of too. A bad relationship doesn’t always have to be with the person you’re dating. Bad relationships can be at work, school, or with family. A bad relationship is a bad relationship and it can plague your health just like not exercising, or eating fast food everyday.

So when thinking of what your New Year’s Resolutions for 2015 will be, add something to improve you and your relationships with others. Try these:

I’m no longer chasing and begging people to love me who treat me like I’m worthless.

I won’t judge myself off of what other people do.

I won’t continue to take love from the wrong man or woman.

I will love me more. I will choose me first.

Write these down, and put them on your wall, or somewhere you can see them everyday.

Let 2015 be about letting those people who hurt you, and don’t grow you go. All of those people who you aren’t sure about, the people who don’t dream as big as you, the ones who keep you stuck, disrespect you, use you or are just taking up space in your life: LET THEM GO!

You have to make the decision to let go of the things that are stressing and hurting you.

2015 will be here really soon, so if the New Year is your clean slate get ready. Make everything you do count, and don’t let anyone stop you from achieving your vision of success.

What’s your New Year’s Resolution?

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LIFESTYLE WORD OF ADVICE

7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE BORED

By Baddie Girl Team August 11, 2014August 16, 2017 0 550

Let’s be honest, being lazy can be relaxing and comfortable, but being bored is like experiencing a slow and painful death. It’s time to take full control of our lives. Do not let this World pass you by because you feel like you have nothing to do. There are so many things to do, both outside, and in the comfort of your home.

Here are some things that you can do to help pass time, keep your brain working, and overall be free and live.

7. MAKE YOUR BED

Start off your day with something productive as making a bed. This is the easiest thing you can do; therefore it should be the first thing you do. If you feel like you can’t get out the bed, when you get up to go to the bathroom, and you come back to your room, make your bed, and go to another part of your home. Once your bed is made, and your room looks neat you won’t want to mess it up, plus coming home to a clean room will bring you peace.

6. PUT TOGETHER A PUZZLE

This is the old school brain game. Although it can get frustrating, it keeps your mind busy, and takes your mind off all of the other craziness that may be going on around you. If you don’t want to go hardcore and do a thousand piece puzzle, do a five-hundred piece puzzle. Turn on the television, or play some music while you put together your puzzle, and stay in your comfy clothes! It’s all about relaxing, and keeping your mind busy on something positive.

5. CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET

Spring may be coming to a close, but its never a bad time to get those clothes out of your closet that you haven’t worn since you were in high school. If you haven’t worn it in the last year, donate it! You’ll feel more organized, and the bonus is, you’ll have space for new clothes!

4. READ A BOOK

If you haven’t already found a book, go to your local book store, and find something by your favorite author, then go to the park, or your back yard and read. If you need a recommendation, there are plenty suggestions here.

3. TRY A NEW RESTUARANT

Don’t stick to what you know, try something different. Try a new restaurant or if you have a favorite restaurant, try a new dish. Call your girlfriends, and make a girls day out of it. Your girlfriends should also be your network of positive energy. So there’s no need to worry about all of the things that aren’t going the best in your life. Live in the moment and enjoy the food, girl talk and good drinks!

2. DO YOUR MAEUP

You think the little things don’t make a difference? It’s all in the little things! You may not feel like actually putting on a full face of makeup, but do it anyway! Go for a glamourous look or keep it chic and natural. Having your face done will make you feel brand new. I promise as soon as you finish putting the mascara on your lashes, you’ll be ready to get out the house and do something.

1. TRY A DIY PROJECT

Do you have something old that you can refurbish? Take your time, and turn it into a one of a kind piece. It could be anything from a pair of shorts to a night stand you want to make stand out. There are so many projects on Pinterest that you can take advantage of you should never get bored. Depending on the project you can call your girlfriends over, or make your boo help you. Who wouldn’t love to hang out while bringing something that has depreciated into a masterpiece of value.

It is so easy to let laziness, depression or just “I Ain’t Gonna Do It” set in, but you have to put yourself together and enjoy everyday. Things may not always go your way, but remember you have the authority to make everyday count. Go out and rediscover what fun really is!

What are you going to do when boredom strikes?

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NO MORE MR. WRONG! HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR MR. RIGHT

By Neyara Nior July 2, 2014August 16, 2017 0 242

It’s not about finding your Mr. Right, it’s about preparing yourself for your perfect mate. He will be your Mr. Right.

“Where the good men at?” “I’m looking for my Mr. Right!” “Where is my Mr. Right?”

I’ve heard it, you’ve heard it, your momma has heard, and I can promise you, your grandmother has heard it too! Finding a good man has been the topic in all the girl talks around the world, and is usually the start to some good girlfriend conversation. But enough! I’m here to help my Baddie Girl’s out with this, so that we can put an end to the epidemic of women who are constantly asking, “Where is my Mr. Right?”

First things first, stop looking for a “Mr. Right.” Your Mr. Right does exist, but it is not your job to look for him. He should find you. You aren’t a hunter trying to capture a lion! So take off your looking for a man sneakers, and put your heels back on.

When I say don’t look for Mr. Right, this doesn’t mean you just sit at home, and hope he pops up when you need to run for gas, or go grocery shopping. No. You want to go live your life. You know what you like to do, so do it! Get out and go to places, and events that you love. Go wine tasting, or try that ballroom class you’ve been putting off. It’ll be easier to attract a great guy, that thinks you’re beautiful, and the awesome thing is that you will already have something in common.

An important element in preparing for your Mr. Right is showing yourself respect. You must present yourself accordingly. You attract what you put out. When you leave the house, you should walk with confidence, and know that you are worthy of greatness. In doing this, your attire, and attitude should compliment each other. If you dress like a lady, and act as one, you will attract a gentleman; if you dress risque, and act out of order, you will attract a guy that more interested in your physical attributes.

On the contrary, what you don’t want to do, is go to places where couples flock. So that couple’s cooking class your girlfriend asked you to go to with her, don’t go, because you’ll feel like the odd woman out when everyone there is coupled up with their special lover, and you’re there with your best friend. You also shouldn’t call your girlfriends, and say, “Where the men at tonight?” I understand, not wanting to be around a bunch of women every time you go out, when you’re trying to meet some nice men in your area. In order to come across those men, you have to not look for them, or think hard about it, but go out and have fun!

The hardest part in preparing for your Mr. Right, is knowing how to respectfully reject those men who don’t fit your needs. This sounds harsh, but it’s real life. There’s no need to take a guy’s number, whom you don’t intend on texting or calling ever in life, or giving your number to a guy who you don’t want texting or calling you. Being led on, with nowhere to go, doesn’t feel good, and in the end someone always gets hurt. So don’t lead a man on to no man’s land. If you’re not interested in a guy who is clearly interested in you, don’t have him waste anymore time on you, to stroke your ego. Politely let him know that you are not interested. No need to block your blessing, or his.

It’s simple. The keys to preparing yourself for your Mr. Right is, to stop looking for him, and let him find you; live your life doing the things you love to do; know yourself, and what you like; present yourself with the respect you desire, and know how to say no to the guys you are not interested in.

Now get out, and do what you love!

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EVENT COVERAGE EXCLUSIVE

HEY BADDIES: BADDIE UPDATE!- GIRL TALK LIVE!, HOPE SHELTER & MORE!

By Neyara Nior April 4, 2014August 16, 2017 2 94

Hey Baddies!

Okay, so I know I’ve been Ms. Absentee from the blog lately, but I have been extremely busy. With the first Baddie Girl Talk Live event, giving back to the Hope Shelter, getting the online store ready, and Princess Conversations about to kick off, I’ve been running! And I was never a track star, so you know I’m all out of breath.

Anywhoo, I wanted to give you a quick update to let you know in detail what’s been going on and what I’ve been doing.

So here it goes…

First things first, if you missed the Baddie Girl Talk Live event, you missed a treat. The topics were so awesome that I was asked to start a Baddie Girl Talk Forum, and I did! Also, I announced the Baddie Girl Luxury Bath Collection, which has been doing extremely well for its short début. The Luxury Bath Collection includes Beauty Bars, Body Scrubs, Body Whips and Bath Salts. There are a variety of scents and everything is homemade with no chemicals. All of the products are made for the beautification of your skin. I have some products for the men too! If you can believe it, my first customer was a Caucasian man from Austria! This is good stuff, I promise.

Second, at the event, Baddie Girl collected towels for the Hope Shelter located in Hapeville. I chose this shelter, because I wanted to give back to women, since Baddie Girl is catered to women, so why not? So many towels were collected, and some Black hair care products were donated as well. Upon arrival to the Hope Shelter, I saw that my work there was not done. They were so appreciative of the towels, and didn’t want to ask for anything else. After a nice conversation with their director, I was able to find out what they needed and I was able to supply them with an abundance of things they needed! They were ecstatic. So you know I have some more things in the works…get ready!

Next, I’ve been putting the finishing touches on Princess Conversations. This is the tween/teen version of Baddie Girl. We’re kicking off at the end of this month!!!! Can you feel the excitement?! Within Princess Convos we have a Princess Academy, which focuses on building self-esteem and self-respect through a series of girl. So, if you know of a young girl between the ages of 10-17 please register them on the Princess Convos website, or send an email to info@princessconvos.com.

Finally! I know I’ve already told you about the Luxury Bath Collection, but there is so much more. Baddie Girl has an online store! I have hand picked a unique collection of earrings, necklaces, and bracelets for the site. There is so much that is coming this is only the beginning.

So I’m sure you can tell my absence has not been in vain. I’ll be back in the blogging motion sooner than soon. But keep your eyes out for Baddie Girl, we’re on the move!

Hugs & Love,

Neyara Reed, Head Baddie In Charge

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DATING LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

IT’S TIME TO “HONOR THY SELF!”

By Neyara Nior March 17, 2014August 16, 2017 0 157

The beauty of women.

We’re nurtures, we over-protect, we love hard, and a lot of other things. I get it. I understand. I’m a woman. But when are we going to stop doing this for others, and do it for ourselves?

I’ve noticed with my girlfriends and myself that we will nurture everyone, especially a man, but ourselves. It is time we nurture ourselves, be overprotective of our hearts and love on ourselves real hard, rather than waiting for someone to love on us. This way, we can be our best selves for ourselves, and truly be ready to nurture someone else, whether it’s our girlfriends, our man, or a child.

Honor thy self!

This is when it is okay to be selfish; acceptable selfishness, if you will. It’s you and the world. Love on yourself! Take a moment out of your day, every day, and do something for you. This is when you find your peace. Do the things you like to do and exploit the things that makes you happy, and do those things in abundance.

Take yourself to brunch, go to a book fair, visit the local museum you’ve been meaning to go to. HONOR THY SELF! Put you over everything and everybody.

I call it M.O.Y., Me Over You. If this sounds offensive, then you aren’t putting enough time into yourself. M.O.Y. means, I love you, but I love me more. You should never feel sorry about thinking of you.

M.O.Y. “Me Over You” This means I love you, but I love me more!

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Whenever my girlfriends are in crazy love situations I always ask first, “How much do you love yourself?” The answer is usually “a lot.” I usually rebuttal back with, “well, it sounds like you love him more than you love yourself, because you’re allowing him to hurt you.” That’s when the re-evaluation, with a different mindset, begins.

Read: How To Get Out Of Your Mess With A New Mindset

Men think this way all the time! Think about it.

When you really love you, and think with a M.O.Y. attitude, you evaluate situations differently. When you start putting yourself first, you react in a way that is positive for you. You have to do what’s best for you. Everybody is not going to react to situations the way you’d like, so it’s okay for you to stop, think about you, and then react, even if it means they aren’t happy with your decision.

Be protective of who you open up to, be careful of who you open your heart to, and nurture those who nurture you. Remember M.O.Y.: Me Over You-I love you, but I love me more.

For advice on your relationship, email: thetruth@baddiegirl.com

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LIFESTYLE WORD OF ADVICE

YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT

By Neyara Nior March 10, 2014August 16, 2017 0 96

Ever notice how we often fight for the one’s who are our ultimate downfall, rather than the one’s who are team you, and want to uplift and inspire.

In relationships especially the romantic ones, we, as women, will fight for a man to stay, even when it’s apparent that his season in our life is over. I’ve learned that although it may be hard, if a man walks out of your life, the only reason you should stop him, is because you want to open the door for him to walk out of.

No need to ask questions, or try to talk it out with him. If he has made up in his mind that you are not worth fighting for, and wants to leave, let him leave. No need to fight for someone who isn’t fighting for you.

Easier said than done. I know. I’ve been there.

But what’s worse, fighting for a man who doesn’t fully respect who you are and the role you thought you played in his life, or letting him go?

So just in case no one has told you, or maybe you haven’t been told in while, know that you are special, and are worth fighting for. You deserve someone who gives you the respect of trying to work out the kinks in your relationship rather than walking out on you just because times got tough.

Do not ever fight for someone to stay if hey would not do it in return for you.

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HE CHEATED, DO I NEED A PLAN B?

By Neyara Nior February 19, 2014August 16, 2017 0 78

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I was asked to give my opinion and some advice on a young lady’s situation.

She feels as though she needs a plan b, because her boyfriend cheated on her.

So, why pack your bags and not leave? That’s what having a plan b is doing. You have one foot in your mess, and another foot trying to walk away.

Read: How To Get Out Of Your Mess

I don’t think you need a Plan B in your relationship, if you feel as though the relationship is not going to work, leave. It’s that simple.

Watch the video above to see my full response.

Do you have a Plan B? Do you think you need a Plan B in your relationship?

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LIFESTYLE WORD OF ADVICE

LISTEN GIRL: GET OUT OF YOUR CYCLE OF MESS!

By Neyara Nior February 17, 2014August 16, 2017 4 126

Mess is everywhere, and in everything. You can have relationship mess, family mess, and job mess, there is always mess. But we can’t get stuck in mess. I had a mentor who would always tell me, “Brittney, don’t step in shit, step over it!” When I get caught up in some mess, I sometimes have to tell myself to step over it.

It took me a while to realize what my mentor meant by this. But in essence, it means that we have control over a lot of things. We may not have control over our skin color, race, or people’s actions, but we do have control over how we react to situations. Sometimes it’s easy to step in mess; however, you can step over mess, by realizing what you have control over, and you will always have control of you. React in a way that will get you the positive results you want.

I’ve learned that when we continue in the cycle of mess, we deny ourselves the opportunity to grow. We do the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. However, to remove ourselves from the cycle of mess we have to move into a new thought process and do something different.

I was the reigning queen of the cycle of mess not too long ago. My first love popped back into my life, for the third or fourth time, (who’s really counting?) and of course, I allowed him back in. My arms, and heart were wide open. I was expecting him to give me better results from the last time when I had given him a second chance after he broke my heart.

See the cycle?

The same man who broke my heart a few years earlier, walked back into my life, again, and again, and I allowed it, expecting him to actually do the things he said he would do. You can’t do the same things over and over again and expect different results, the next time. Nothing in life works that way.

I had to realize what I did have control over. I had control over how I allowed him to treat me. I had control over not letting him use me for his own gain, as well as him hurting me.

Read: How A Man Can Use You For His Own Gain!

I was hurting myself every time I let him back in. I was stuck in my own cycle of mess. I was stuck for a while too, but I finally saw the light, which was my self-worth.

Word to the wise: What we focus on determines what we miss. #Baddie #GirlTalk #Advice #Relationships

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My cycle of mess with my first love, became second nature. I knew he would come back. It was hard for me to remove myself from my toxic situation and get out of that cycle of mess. Allowing him to come back into my life, time and time again, made me miss out on a lot. That’s time I won’t ever get back, which I’m okay with, now.

I was so worried about him, and concerned with what he was doing that I stopped doing me, and what made me happy. Blogging= Stopped. Hanging out with my girls= Stopped. Life= Stopped. I was sleepwalking through life, and that’s never okay.

See, it’s not the hand you’re dealt, but how you play the cards that makes the difference. We have to move out of the cycle of mess. Most times we create the cycle unknowingly, as I did with my first love. It is time for us to grow and prosper and be our best self, for our self. Even if it means removing ourselves from toxic relationships that we have grown accustomed to.

I say this to be a wake up call to you. If you’re sleepwalking because you’re in a cycle of mess, WAKE UP! Do not press snooze again, and allow the cycle to continue. You do not have to become a victim to other people’s actions. Realize what you have control over, and you have complete control over how you respond to mess. Every decision you make moves you towards something; make sure it’s positive.

For advice on your relationship, email: thetruth@baddiegirl.com

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2015: NEW YEAR, NEW YOU!

7 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE BORED

7. MAKE YOUR BED

6. PUT TOGETHER A PUZZLE

5. CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET

4. READ A BOOK

3. TRY A NEW RESTUARANT

2. DO YOUR MAEUP

1. TRY A DIY PROJECT

NO MORE MR. WRONG! HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR MR. RIGHT

It’s not about finding your Mr. Right, it’s about preparing yourself for your perfect mate. He will be your Mr. Right.

HEY BADDIES: BADDIE UPDATE!- GIRL TALK LIVE!, HOPE SHELTER & MORE!

IT’S TIME TO “HONOR THY SELF!”

YOU’RE WORTH THE FIGHT

HE CHEATED, DO I NEED A PLAN B?

LISTEN GIRL: GET OUT OF YOUR CYCLE OF MESS!

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